Integrity and the Law of Attraction

What does personal integrity have to do with the law of attraction?

Much of my personal development training has dealt with the topic of integrity: how if one spoke in your wheel of life is missing, the whole thing doesn't work.

Some people approach deliberate creation without much thought to the level of truth they live their life with.

They think wanting to manifest the partner of their dreams has nothing to do with how they feel about their job. Or that attracting financial prosperity will solve the problems in their marriage. Or that their drinking problem has no effect on their ability to make their dream come true.

How to put this succinctly ...

It's all related, folks.

How we feel affects what we can create. Period.

So if you're out of integrity in one area of life, it'll touch the other areas in some form or fashion. You can count on it.

Which is why one of the most powerful ways you can start getting what you want is to clean up the areas you're out of alignment in and begin living authentically.

It's why when one of my ex-boyfriends finally broke up with me, he immediately experienced incredible professional success. It's why when my girlfriend paid off debt that she wasn't comfortable with, her romantic and professional life took a big turn for the better. It's why when I don't tell Russ what's bothering me in the relationship, it feels like my manifesting is in slow motion.

Personal integrity. Living what's true for you. Knowing who you are and living what's important.

It's easier said than done for many.

Without the awareness of where you're not being authentic, living in integrity is a good trick. But once you know where you've been pretending, you've got material to work with.

Here's a common and quick exercise for excavating your truth:

When you've got a couple of private minutes to yourself, get quiet and grounded, and complete each of the following statements:

"I've been pretending that ... "

"The truth is that ... "

Repeat the series until you hit on something that feels ... well, it might feel like a pang in the heart or like you just got hit between the eyes. This realization doesn't have to be painful, though - it can be liberating. Especially when you act on it.

And acting on it is critical to swift and successful manifesting.

Otherwise we handicap our vibration with negative energy that often leaves us frustrated as to why law of attraction seems to work for everyone but us.

So if you want to create immediate motion in your deliberate creation efforts, discover where you've got a short spoke in your wheel and address it. Difficult as it may temporarily be to do this work, the payoff of an authentic life makes it worthwhile.

(I know these are personal stories to share, but if you have an example of this to share with others by posting a comment, I guarantee you'll inspire someone else to take brave steps in their own life, too.)

Namaste, friends.

Commitment & Feeling Good

Sometimes we discover keeping our word creates a conflict with a high vibration. What to do when you're at cross purposes with your spoken word and your "feel good"?

For example, it sounds like a fine idea at the time to host your girlfriend's parents who are coming to town for two weeks, but as the date approaches you're filled with a mixture of regret and dread. What to do when you want to maintain your integrity, keep your promise, and still follow what feels good?

Here are three helpful tricks to have a powerful word and a high vibe:

First of all, make your commitments carefully and with thoughtful consideration. Don't make promises you can't - or don't want to - keep. Set yourself up for success; don't agree to something that doesn't agree with you. It helps to get good at saying no.

Second, if your feel good changes on something, address it. "Tom, I know I said I'd meet with you tomorrow night, and I'm now feeling overwhelmed with my week. Can we discuss a reschedule?" Things change in life, including our minds, and punishing ourselves by doing something just because we said we would isn't the point. Cleaning it up when we recognize our new desire is.

Third, don't underestimate how good it feels to keep a commitment. Doing what we say we'll do simply feels good! Knowing people can count on us to speak the truth and follow through on what we say is a vibe-raiser in itself. A nice side benefit is that when you develop the discipline to consistently honor your word, you become much more selective in giving it!