Imagine you retire to a tropical island with unlimited wealth and the sex symbol of your choice. Now imagine you've been doing that for five years and you're bored out of your mind.
What do you want to do next?
What did you want to do before you "grew up" and "got real"?
What would you do if no one else would ever find out?
What would you do if it was entirely up to you?
What would you do if nobody minded?
What would be even better than that?
Your answers to these questions offer insight to your true desire.
My personal test for knowing when I'm on authentic track is an instant genuine smile as I think about my goal or intention. That's a sure sign for me that this one is truly "mine" and not just a "safe" goal.
I've been thinking about this post since I read it on the first day of July. This speaks to me more than any of the other guides I've read, and the difference is the five years that was stuck in there. I don't know that I have the answers to the questions yet, but it really puts a different twist in my thinking.
ReplyDeleteJust wanted you to know... ;-)
You know, Star, I recently read Tim Ferriss' opinion in 4 Hour Work Week book (on my recommended reading list) that instead of asking "What do I want?" a better way to get an authentic answer is to ask "What would excite me?". I think he might be on to something with that.
ReplyDeleteI also have a client whose litmus test for whether she's on track or not is if it feels like a "Hell Yes!". If, as she considers something, it feels like a "maybe," or a "I'm not sure," or ANYTHING less than "Hell YES!" than she considers it a no.
Can you imagine a life filled only with hell yeses? I have to admit that thought makes me smile. I've talked about that before, but can't say I live by it 100%.
(Sorry for the profanity. I suspect it doesn't have quite the same effect without it, though.)