October 30, 2007

Entertaining Emotional Guidance

I received this entertaining email from a friend and former client, but it was her comment at the end of the note that made me burst out laughing.

"To my darling husband,

Before you return from your business trip I just want to let you know about the small accident I had with the pick up truck when I turned into the driveway.

Fortunately it was not too bad and I really didn't get hurt, so please don't worry too much about me.

I was coming home from Wal-Mart, and when I turned into the driveway I accidentally pushed down on the accelerator instead of the brake. The garage door is slightly bent but the pick up fortunately came to a halt when it bumped into your car.

I am really sorry, but I know with your kind-hearted personality you will forgive me. You know how much I love you and care for you my sweetheart. I am enclosing a picture for you.

I cannot wait to hold you in my arms again.
Your loving wife

P.S. Your girlfriend called."

The way the email goes, you read the love note first, THEN see the photo, and then the PS about the girlfriend. (This program only allows me to put photos at the top, so I couldn't do it real justice.)

But my friend's note at the end made me proud that my message of always seeking the downstream action had gotten through. Her words:

Before she got into the truck, she asked herself,
"what would feel better?" . . .

Indeed! lol Sometimes the "feel better" action may very well result in something that looks like the above photo. Lord knows I've been there!

Which is why no one else can give us direction as good as we can give ourselves.

Checking within about what feels best offers us expert guidance.

We hear Abraham say all the time that our tendency to shun anger sometimes keeps us from climbing up the emotional scale. Although it doesn't necessarily feel good to stay in the angry vibe for lengthy periods, sometimes it's exactly the bridge we need in order to get to higher vibrations.

And that's as much as I'll say about that. For now, anyway. :)

13 comments:

  1. LOL It's all in the delivery and timing, even in print! I haven't read that one in a while. Thanks for reminding!

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  2. Hi Jeanette,

    That is absolutely delicious as an example of 'feel goods' that ‘go against our cultural norms’.

    Perfect!

    Thank you.

    Do we all get a sense of allegiance to her actions? How good is it to be able to feel great about a (from another point of view) destructive choice.

    Woooo hoooo!

    X Kim

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  3. Glad you enjoyed it, John! I have to say, I'd wondered if the guys laugh as hard as I think we women do in reading that email with the photo. Based on your poast, I'm guessing it works for both genders? lol

    And Kim, there's a country song I catch on occasion where the lyrics are about a woman carving her name in the leather seats of her cheating boyfriend's expensive truck .. and how whoever he cheats on next it won't be her. I have SUCH mixed feelings listening to that song! On one hand, I enjoy the thought of someone who makes her displeasure known in a way that will make a strong impact on the guy and she's empowered enough that she's not sticking around for it to happen twice - on the other, it's SO negative!! lol

    Funny how those moments can be ... but I've found they DO pass if I just give them a little bit of time to. And enjoying just the THOUGHT of the action often delivers the kind of reward that I would hope to get from the action itself.

    Good thing Russ doesn't read my blog, huh? ;)

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  4. Oh, that song is... well, kind of pathetic and repetitive, really. And horrifyingly, emboldeningly, disgustingly negative, with a side order of self-righteous entitlement. No, I don't dig it. And it does, by the way, represent a cultural norm, the likes of which we are better without, LOA-followers in particular, who need integrity to make things work. What would make it entertaining at least is like in the jokes where that's happening and it turns out to be the wrong truck or somesuch. As it is, it's a straight line, which is really boring and self-indulgent in a song.

    But yeah, this story seems to be a popular story in about everyone's book!

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  5. I agree with Jeannette no one can tell you how best to reach your feel better vibe but you, when you find yourself in a compromised situation.

    But I like John's point as well that no matter what, it is good to look for your integrity in any given situation.

    Once such a long time ago I was mending a bachelor's jeans for free and he was coming over and bad mouthing my husband. It began to get to me, here I was doing this favor for the guy and he was tastelessly bagging on my husband. I decided I didn't want to do this for the guy anymore, so I mended the jeans and then I cut a big heart out of the bum of the jeans. He never came around again.

    However, now with more maturity I think I should I have been braver and used my words. But, I did seem to get the message across with out a word been spoken.

    I can see my sense of my integrity has deepen with time. And I am gettng less and less willing to take on the perception of being a victim. I admit it is a familiar rut but I sure scramble now to get out of the rut quicker.

    Maybe that is what we are celebrating here, just how quickly can we let go of that old song - someone did me wrong.

    Love Leslie

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  6. Hm. I come off a bit tiffy today, don't I? Not quite my intention, though there's a certain mindset that irritates the heck out of me and blows intentional creation out of the water. My apologies for not moderating my phraseology. Really gotta avoid posting pre-coffee...

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  7. Well said by both. I appreciate the words about being less willing to entertain the perspective of a victim, and the thought that we're learning more and more how to quickly release the "someone did me wrong" song.

    And John - you still make me laugh! "Posting pre-coffee"! What a hoot!

    Thanks for the thoughts, you two. It's what makes this blogging thing fun. I LOVE YOU!!

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  8. Yeah, but Carrie Underwood looks so hot in that video how can you not get a good vibe from that song.

    Plus she's such a sweety.

    Now the other question is... is it true that it doesn't really matter what the song says, but how it makes you feel that counts.

    Signed,
    "The guy that leaves Jeannette voices mails that she never listens to"
    8^)

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  9. Oh, is that Carrie?! lol I haven't seen the video! You're right, Carrie can sing whatever she wants and it's all good because she is SUCH a sweetie.

    (Kinda like how it's funny when grandma swears.)

    And I also don't answer voice mails because I'm here reading comments from long lost friends! lol

    I must say, it is my dream come true to hear you say it's not the words that matter but how it makes you feel! (SUCCESS!!!)

    This coming from the girl who loves hearing an old Quiet Riot or Metallica or - I admit it - even a Rob Zombie or two - song on the radio. I hear something from my past that takes me back to good times, and it doesn't matter what the words are - I enjoy it.

    Ah, you made my day, Anonymous. Do that more often, please! lol

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  10. Well I would have made your day Friday if you had answered the phone.

    I had a really good loa success story for you... you would have loved it.

    Now I think I may have to collect on that Mexican dinner before I tell you.

    Blue Skies,
    8^)

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  11. Holy Smokes Blue Skies - I love it, "doesn't matter what the song says it is how it makes you feel that counts."
    It's like when people say something that "looks" good but feels awful. It feels yucky because energetically they are sticking it to you.
    How astute you and Jeannette are and keep on rocking to whatever music brings on the good vibes for YOU!

    Love Leslie

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  12. Yeah, it's not just songs, it's everything, huh? Conversations, places, food, ...

    We've all had that sensation of not being able to put our finger on something that wasn't quite right ... but had that deep down knowing that it was off.

    How cool will THAT be when we rely more on our sense of the energy than what it looks like or sounds like or whatever. Answer: VERY!! (imho)

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  13. Nice one.

    Techie advice for photos on Blogger:
    - upload the photo to the post then cut n paste it to where you want to site it on the post.

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